PARTNERS HOPE

At the request of a friend to share this, I will now relate a poem/song about something that I have often pondered regarding the love relationship. It is a potential. A possibility. It is about leaving entanglement behind and entering the boundlessness of ones heart joined to another’s not through the fear that clenches but through letting go into a love that has no bounds.

THE NEXT EVOLUTIONARY STEP.

Can we step beyond
what we once new
to be love, into
a vaster space?

Can we use that love,
that we once new,
as a stepping stone.

Can we unweave the
webs that we wove?
The webs that bind
two souls.

Is this possible?
Could this be the
next evolutionary step
In love?

To be together, in love,
without the confinement.

The unconditioned love,
of the spheres. The love
of letting go, into what is.

THE GENTLE YET DISCIPLINED WAY

Gentleness with the self may very well lead to gentleness with others. By gentleness I do not mean the extreme idea of the undisciplined pushover. I am pointing more towards allowing with awareness. Taking the attitude of gentleness with the self means to step out of the fight or flight mechanism. It is to be with what is in our mind, body and emotions. It is taking the attitude of caring watchfulness. As if we are looking after a small child. And what is the small child in us. It is that aspect of the mind that wants and wants and wants. It wants attention, security, human love, a new car or house, 65 million dollars in the bank and a million other things. At the same time this aspect of the mind doesn’t want perhaps just as much, quite possibly in the polar opposite of what it wants. Of course the aspect of the mind that wants some things and not others is, what it is. Sometimes what it wants or does not want causes harm to self or others. Sometimes what the mind wants or does not want causes good in the world and in ones life. In some traditions it is said that in order for enlightenment to occur, the wanting mind must be destroyed. I don’t know if that is true or not. Perhaps one day we will find that out for our selves in our own way and time, I don’t really know. For now though I am not concerned with destroying an aspect of the mind, I am more interested in evolving into friendly relations with all aspects of the self. To move in the direction of friendly relation say with our anger towards someone, thing or self, does not of course mean that we need to act out in the world and cause our self or another being mental, emotional, physical or verbal abuse. It is simply to know that thoughts and emotions of anger are in me now. I see the thoughts and emotions, and for now this dynamic is taking place within my field of awareness. I know that this dynamic is not my total self and in fact it is not even the tip of the iceberg of who I am. It is just what is occurring at this point and I can meat it with courage and gentleness instead of fear and neglect. Sometimes discipline is needed, sometimes gentleness. For example, it may take some discipline to muster up the courage to be with our thoughts and emotions. It then may require loving gentleness to continue being with these thoughts and emotions. The tendency may be to easily slip into fight or flight, especially when the mind is not wanting what is going on with it at that moment. That is ok because when that occurs, and we become aware of what we are doing, we can apply gentleness to the fact that we are trying to get rid of or flea from part of our self. Do to this patient persistent lovingness towards our selves; we may start to see new points of view within our self about these thoughts and feelings. We may find that compassion towards our self grows. At that point we may also find that new perspectives and compassion are born more fully towards others.